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In a previous Parenthood Entry, I shared a brief discussion
with my brother.
(Paraphrase) “With my sons in their twenties I shouldn’t need
to do this parenthood thing anymore.”
Yesterday my wife and I went to Tombstone;
Memorial Day Weekend is big at Tombstone, the largest crowds and constant
gunfight reenactments up and down the street. Many years this trip included my
boys, the four of us walked up and down one of the historical points of my
favorite topic. “The Wild West.”
During the day, our conversation included ‘reflecting.’
(That is what I call it ‘now,’ ‘then’ it was all worry.)
Sue asked a question “is it wrong that we remember so little
of everything?” I paused, and later took into consideration translating the
question into a blog; I thought this has to be a common feeling for parents at
any stage.
From a father’s view of her question, I thought she was
right, so many memories seemed blurred, and guilt stepped in. Did we do all we
could?
The answer is yes; we have done all we could.
Parenting is a class learned on the run, during the fire
drills, and under extreme pressure at times. Parenting also means learning how
to live each day with very little sleep. Yes, sleep deprivation survival is a
distinction for every parent.
To the new parents that might be reading this,
sorry, get used to it.
With the infant stage, we are a constant servant. The
independent years stress is normal. The teen years we tend to sit on the couch
and watch a clock, hoping they are enjoying life and coming home in one piece.
I didn’t intend to make it look so bleak. I share such
information to let all the parents following our steps that it is normal to
have these thoughts.
Back to Sue’s question, we parents cannot remember
everything as a photo album. What I have noticed of late, certain events will
trigger different memories as clear as the day it happened. To stand on Toughnut
Street in Tombstone and recall a lifetime of memories will not happen.
My
response to her at that moment was, “we were very tired for a lot of the time.”
The memories are there, they will always be there.
News flash!
PARENTING IS NOT ANYTHING LIKE
“TEEN MOM” ON MTV!
Parenting is not a game, you will learn to be tough, and you
will learn to do things you thought you could never do. The fact is you have no
choice, the payment, and the reward, is a life filled with great memories,
tough challenges and participating in the transformation of an infant into an adult.
Depression happens, don’t give in to it, you will cry, let
the tears flow and move forward. You will laugh to the point of tears; laugh
away. You will burn meals tending to the needs of the young one, that’s ok, mac
and cheese is a solid back up.
You can do it and you will do it!
Below the excerpt are the links to the previous Parenthood Entries.
Here is an excerpt from a song in
my library.
The genre may not fit the tastes
of my many visitors; however, the words are so true.
"Back For More"
By Ivan Moody
Let's get it on!
It's time to get in the game,
You gotta fight 'til it hurts and
then you do it again
Let's tear it up!
I'm staying straight to the core,
ain't no room for second place, go big or go home!
Rise!
It's dog eat dog
Rise!
Man versus beast
Rise!
The strong will survive
Rise!
I've got no time for the weak
It's time to rise up, man up, get
back up, never been and won't be broken
Dust off and then come back for
more
You've gotta reach down, dig
deep, and break ground,
Show them all you won't be beaten
Brush it off and then come back
for more!
Come back for more
~*~
The Parenthood Library
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