• To share that we are not alone.
• To educate through experience, those who follow.
• To learn from those who have walked ahead of me.
Every day is a new day, I turn to get out of bed and wonder what is in store for me. Socrates said it well, “The More I learn the less I know.”
Thirty years with my Queen Susan, twenty-sixth wedding anniversary next month, the beginning of my twenty-fourth year of parenthood, and my first year of my new title, Grand Dad! Qualifications, maybe, experience indeed.
I have chosen to go back, way back today. (The New, Young, Parent) In my consideration for today’s entry, I searched my mind’s eye for a topic that would encompass the hardest things to incorporate, the most influential item in my journey and the most powerful key to Parenthood.
The greatest power known to man is that of unconditional love. Through the ages, mystics, sages, singers and poets have all expressed the ballad and call to love. As humans, we have searched endlessly for the experience of love through the outer senses. Great nations have come and gone under the guise of love for their people. Religions have flourished and perished while claiming the true path to love. We, the people of this planet, may have missed the simplicity of unconditional love. . .
Simply stated, unconditional love is an unlimited way of being. We are without any limit to our thoughts and feelings in life and can create any reality we choose to focus our attention upon. There are infinite imaginative possibilities when we allow the freedom to go beyond our perceived limits. If we can dream it, we can build it. Life, through unconditional love, is a wondrous adventure that excites the very core of our being and lights our path with delight.
Unconditional Love is a dynamic and powerful energy that lifts us through the most difficult times. It is available at any moment by turning our attention to it and using its wonderful potential to free us from our limitations. It requires practice and intent to allow this energy to fully permeate our daily experience. It begins with ourselves, for without self-love, we cannot know what true love can be. In loving ourselves, we allow the feeling to generate within us and then we can share it to everyone and everything around us! That which we send out, returns to us in greater measure. If you have not thought about how you feel towards yourself, physically, mentally, and emotionally, or spiritually, we invite you to do so now. Begin the journey that changes everything. Begin the journey of unconditional love...**
“Nice sermon, Dave. We have all heard, I Cor. 13:1-13.”
Yes I agree, this was incorporated into our wedding ceremony also, however, it took me many years to learn how it applied and how it is truly a serious key. If not the main key, the grease that makes everything operate.
Grandparents are visiting, the honored guest? Baby! “Oh so cute, so adorable, so good, and what a perfect little angel.” With all the excitement, all the attention, all the love, it is a perfect day. Mom and Dad feel great, rested, help all day, diapers changed by Grandma all day. Unconditional Love, oh yeah, easy.
The door closes, Grandparents are on their way home. Mom and Dad hug and kiss, “what a great day, look at her laying on the floor, smiling, this is so wonderful, honey.”
Lights out, baby in the crib, Mom and Dad cuddle and drift off to sleep. 2AM! The screams shake the house, the pets are going insane. Mom jumps to her feet and darts to the crib. The angle transformed, to what is known in some fictional tales as a Lyken. Half an hour passes, the screaming constant, Mom’s stress elevated and peaking. To the main bedroom; a smack to the back of Dad’s head.
“How can you sleep, it’s your turn to try!”
“I gotta sleep, Honey, I have work in the morning.”
“What do you think I have in the morning? It is your turn!”
Tensions high, your child can sense this and elevates the unwanted current status.
The problem: Cutting two teeth at the same time.
Step back. How can we apply Unconditional Love?
Put yourself in the crib, you have zero knowledge, eat, burp, potty, fresh diaper, get hugs and nap. That is the extent of life. (Ever need a root canal?) You’re sleeping, then out of nowhere extreme pain fills the mouth and head. The only thing you know is to cry.
With that said, Unconditional Love begins with dropping how the situation affects you. It is not about you anymore. The child is counting on you, seeking your healing, loving touch. With a clear mind you will learn to adapt and overcome. Learn to stock some basics in the first aid section of the home. (Jell for the gums, is a good place to start.) This will prevent additional opportunities to stay calm.
Easier said than done? Yes, but in my qualifying opening I can say the sooner one can move closer to understanding and applying Unconditional Love, the sooner you can go back to sleep. However, remember this, some nights you will not go to sleep.
Thanks for coming along. Until we meet again:
Have a Great Day.